My blog has 2 aims really, the first is to document my midwifery journey and the other is to follow my sons progress. Jamie is under assesment at the moment. A long winded process i know but after what i have been dealing with on a daily basis it is a welcome process none the less.
He was always different. I do wonder if the shoulder dystocia at birth had anything to do with it but i guess i will always be asking myself WHY???
I noticed differences in him from other kids when he didnt play with toys the same. He wouldnt sit on a ride on toy like the others he loved spinning whells and he never slept at all untill almost 2 years old.
The real difference i noticed was when i had danny, my 3rd child. Comparing him to Jamie there was a definite difference. Jamie was barely talking at 3 and at 1 Danny was babbling away. I easily knew what Danny needed where as Jamie strugled to let me know his feelings. In the last year though things went from bad to worse. He developed a sensitivity to noises, toilet flushing, tumble Dryer, Hand dryer in public toilets, hair clippers. That developed into lawn mowers which meant he was petrified to go into the garden. Then areoplanes, bees and even flies!!! He wasnt eating using any utensils even at 3 years old as he didnt have the skills to do it but he also hated dropping food onto himself. He now refuses to wear trousers or pants and its a nightmare to do simple taks such as brush his teeth or cut his nails. Life was getting hard and we didnt know or understand what was going on. He was fine at nursery, we later learned it was the structure that enabled him to cope better at nursery than at home.
Imagine seeing your child in intense pain curled up in a ball bright red and screaming with his hands over his ears petrified and shaking and not knowing what the hell is the matter or how to help...........thats what we call a meltdown and is what happens when something happens that overstimulates Jamie.
Well on a good note today we went on the yearly nursery outing to Wickstead Park....on a coach!!!!!!!!!!! I took all 3 kids and they loved it. i was so nervous taking Jamie but i prepared and he had his pictures. He finds visual things easier to understand so each day he has a set of pictures with activities on so as he can visualise the day. He had his little picture of a coach and dinner and the fair and he coped with the day really well. I used a wrist link......wow what a help that was. He has no sense of fear and he runs off so it really helped. Today i feel like we have made progress and i feel fantastic for it!!! xx
